I’m a member of an online community of 20something Bloggers (even though I don’t have the badge up because WordPress sucks and I haven’t made my own html graphic yet like I did for my Facebook fan box, which was a waste of time for my whopping two fans. Update: 3 fans! Woohoo Kristen Brumm!)
Anyway…
Recently there was a topic posted in the forums about 20something virgins. Personally I was shocked at how many spoke up to say that they too, were strangers to the s-e-x at ages like 20, 24 or 26.
Now, I have no problem with people choosing not to have sex. I haven’t known what it was like to be a virgin since the tender age of 14, so it’s pretty difficult for me to imagine it at the age of 20 or 24. But, theoretically, it’s not something I’m going to oppose.
What does irk me is the preoccupation that so many virgins seem to have with their own sexual status. They feel the need to inform people of their choice and then watch for a negative reaction so that they can report back to the others that they were outcast and victimized.
Bottom line, if you choose to remain a virgin until you’re married, or until you’re 40, or whatever it is that you’re waiting for, and you feel the need to make it your prime goal in life to talk about it, don’t complain when some people react badly. You are the one defining yourself by your sexual preferences, the recipient of your revelation is only following suit. And that, in my opinion is the opposite of social progress.
Whether or not you have sex does not make you who you are. Which gender you prefer sexually does not make you who you are. Your nose hook fetish does not make you who you are (favorite search engine term of the week. Sorry to disappoint you, random Googler). If you let these things define you, then you are no better than the person judging you for them.
In the year 2010, I would think people could let go of things like the virgin label. Who cares?
Sex is a mere physical act between two animals. Basing your worth (and others) as a person on something so petty is beyond my understanding. As are many things lately.
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Couldn’t agree more. Defining yourself or others based on sexual activity or preferences is ridiculous. We’re more than sex, sure talking about it every once and awhile is fun. But to use it to spark debates? To use it judge people or relationships? Puh-lease.
Exactly, and I tend to think that it is the people defining themselves by their sexuality (or lack thereof) who are also the ones judging others by those terms…..if that makes sense!
OH. MY. GOD. RIGHT?
This whole topic annoys the shit out of me. WHO F-ING CARES. Stop making it seem like it’s some big deal. It’s not. Go do it and you’ll see it’s not that huge of a deal.
Exactly, I would love to be a fly on the wall when some of these 32 year-olds finally give it up, and they’re all…..”WTF? That’s it?! Sonofabitch!”
I’m with you on the talking-about-it thing. Also the report-back-to-my-buddies-how-intolerant-the-world-is. People love to victimize themselves over the most random crap.
Right?! It’s like “I’d get over myself but I’m afraid everyone else would get over me too.” Maybe if they got some they wouldn’t be such attention whores.
You’re welcome.
BTW, I’ve never had sex.*
*on top of Uluru, in the winter, with three different men. Hoo ya.
Don’t judge me.
Bwahahaha, YOU are a total awesomeface!
Well, I can tell you what I want to do after staring at the hot piece of man ass!! Hell that hot piece of chick ass!!!!
I was just telling Trixie the other day about bitches like this… They broadcast it bc they want mother fucking attention.
Dude I slutted it up all over Ks between the age of 15 and uuuummmm…. wait how old am I????
No matter, no matter…
People like to feel ‘victimized’ wheather it be sexual, racial…. blah blah
SO THEY HAVE SOMETHING TO BITCH ABOUT.
Fuck ’em and the horse they rode in on.
I can tell you a few HUNDRED ways I ‘d let that sex god up there VICTIMIZE my helpless ass…
hahaha I knooow right….if I had known I was going to get married at fucking 19 I would have whored around EVEN MORE than I did!
And seriously….it’s not like someone is going to deny you a job or vandalize your house or fucking assault you because they found out you’re a VIRGIN. It minimizes the experiences of people who have to deal with real discrimination…..in other words STFU already!!
PS. I think the chick is hotter…I hate muscles!
You HATE muscles??? What the fuck is wrong with you skank face?
Wrap in arms of steal ANY day!!!!!
Hahaha I thought you’d say that!! I’m more a fan of the cracked out looking skinny rocker type….I can’t help it!!!
I couldn’t agree more! People make me crazy with their don’t put me in a box attitudes and they’re the dumbass putting themselves there to begin with!